Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Potty Training Complication

Charlie ended up back in a diaper at daycare yesterday due to a big misunderstanding on my part. Apparently, "we'll start potty training him here when you start at home" means two weeks without accidents at home before they can go diaperless at school.

So now I'm kind of at a loss. There's no way that he's going to potty train while he's in a diaper. I know my kid, and I know that as long as that plastic/paper abomination is covering his butt he's going to take advantage of it. His daycare teacher suggested that we get him some pull-ups. I'm pretty opposed to the pull-up idea - though it might not be the popular opinion, I think they delay potty training as opposed to encouraging it. Come on, they were developed by DIAPER MANUFACTURERS. The average age of potty training in the land where KC and P&G reign supreme is already so much higher than in other industrialized countries, so why wouldn't they want to extend their reach?

I need to figure out another plan, especially since the massive skin irritation he has in his diaper area is starting to flare up again. I just don't know how this is going to work when he's in diapers at daycare and undies at home. I can't exactly take an entire week off work to sit in the house, but if it comes down to it I guess that's something to consider.

What am I missing?

Edit: They will help potty train within the context of pull-ups. They are able to do it more intensively in the next room up, but he won't be transitioning over there for another 4-6 months, and I don't really want to wait that long. We're really very happy with the center, but every once in a while there's something that really annoys me. I don't know if this is an issue that's unique to our center or just something that working moms have to deal with - having to compromise on our child-rearing plans.

14 comments:

  1. Seriously? They won't help with potty training until he's accident free at home for 2 weeks? Sorry, but that's the biggest load of crap. Is it because they don't want to clean up the accidents or because they don't have time to change his clothes or run him to the potty? Would it help if he was in the next room up? At Kate's school they wil work with potty trainers in her current room if the parent asks. In hte next room up, they work with them more regularly. Regardless, like you said, you can't really expect him to potty train at home and not do it at school. Talk about a mixed message!

    Here's a suggestion. I know you don't want to go the pull up route, but what if you put on some big boy undies and then put a pull up on over it. Charlie would get the sensation of being wet but the mess wouldn't go all over the floor. When Kate was starting with the PTing, she would get really upset if she peed in the undies. They also sell those plastic diaper covers (found some at Walmart). Or could you put him in undies and then put a CD over it?

    You would think a school that was so excepting to the CDing thing would be more understanding with the PTing thing. Hopefully you figure something out soom!

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  2. What about those awful plastic covers that can go over undies??

    I can't believe they won't help eithere.

    You could alway lie and say he's been dry mwahwahwahwah

    You are right - pull ups are exactly like diapers. Doesn't encourage them to try at all.

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  3. In my classroom we have a similar rule...parents start potty training at home during the weekends. Then once their children are 'getting it more than not getting it' they can send them to school in underwear.

    We do this mostly to weed out a few families who in the past have expected us as teachers to potty train their children without them putting in the effort at home.

    Usually families spend 2 or 3 weekends in underwear to give their child enough experience in this super cool new potty-ing thing. After that, the children wear their new underwears to school and usually have lots of successes.

    We benefit from having a potty right in our room- does Charlie's room have that? Also another big indicator we look for...we spend an hour outside on the playground. We take our underwear kids to the potty right before and after playground time, but we really need them to be able to hold it for the hour that we're outside.

    Some families have taken 4 day weekends to do serious underwear potty training time. The children seem to really benefit from this brief concentrated time. In fact, one child 'got it' after just those 4 days and while he had a few accidents, he was potty trained!

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  4. Accepting not excepting...and that's why I don't comment on blogs before I have caffeine. ;-)

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  5. I think that's just plain BS. It's definitely a mixed message -- you can't potty train part time! Ugh, I hate that you are dealing with this. It's not my idea of a vacation to stay home and PT my kid.

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  6. Wow, that does make it kind of difficult! I don't have any experience with this since we mainly PT Piper during my brief foray as a SAHM, but it doesn't seem like they're really working with you to the best of their ability.
    We're also in the anti-pull up camp..what's the point, they're just diapers that go on differently. But what about something that's a cross between the CDs that C's used to, and "big kid" underwear. I researched lots of different options, and although we just ended up using the cheap Gerber ones, there are some good options out there. Would daycare be open to using something like really thick underwear with a plastic cover? It would feel different than what C's used to, but still hold "accidents" better than just undies.
    Even though he's still wearing diapers, would they at least be willing to take him to sit on the potty several times per day? Even though I was home with her, Piper wore diapers for a few weeks while sitting on the potty every couple hours, and by the end she was barely having any accidents and we knew it was time to switch. I know it's not your ideal situation, but I agree with you that it's definitely not going to help things for potty training to just be ignored during the week.

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  12. Accepting not excepting...and that's why I don't comment on blogs before I have caffeine. ;-)

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  13. In my classroom we have a similar rule...parents start potty training at home during the weekends. Then once their children are 'getting it more than not getting it' they can send them to school in underwear.

    We do this mostly to weed out a few families who in the past have expected us as teachers to potty train their children without them putting in the effort at home.

    Usually families spend 2 or 3 weekends in underwear to give their child enough experience in this super cool new potty-ing thing. After that, the children wear their new underwears to school and usually have lots of successes.

    We benefit from having a potty right in our room- does Charlie's room have that? Also another big indicator we look for...we spend an hour outside on the playground. We take our underwear kids to the potty right before and after playground time, but we really need them to be able to hold it for the hour that we're outside.

    Some families have taken 4 day weekends to do serious underwear potty training time. The children seem to really benefit from this brief concentrated time. In fact, one child 'got it' after just those 4 days and while he had a few accidents, he was potty trained!

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  14. Wow, that does make it kind of difficult! I don't have any experience with this since we mainly PT Piper during my brief foray as a SAHM, but it doesn't seem like they're really working with you to the best of their ability.
    We're also in the anti-pull up camp..what's the point, they're just diapers that go on differently. But what about something that's a cross between the CDs that C's used to, and "big kid" underwear. I researched lots of different options, and although we just ended up using the cheap Gerber ones, there are some good options out there. Would daycare be open to using something like really thick underwear with a plastic cover? It would feel different than what C's used to, but still hold "accidents" better than just undies.
    Even though he's still wearing diapers, would they at least be willing to take him to sit on the potty several times per day? Even though I was home with her, Piper wore diapers for a few weeks while sitting on the potty every couple hours, and by the end she was barely having any accidents and we knew it was time to switch. I know it's not your ideal situation, but I agree with you that it's definitely not going to help things for potty training to just be ignored during the week.

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